You missed your meeting

And this is not the first time.

You just missed the most important meeting. It would have been understandable if it was a one-time thing, but you have consistently missed this meeting, which is supposed to be the single most important meeting you should be having daily.

You always miss this meeting and you question why your life is going wiggiwagga (I think I just formed my English word) every day.

Today, you missed the meeting again, and if you do not call yourself to order going forward, nothing might change in your life.

It is a meeting with yourself.

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We have tons of meetings at work and with friends every blessed day; meetings so much we end up feeling worn out, but we never have a meeting with the single important person in our lives, ourselves.

Yet we wonder why we are always unsure of the decisions to make, or of what we deeply desire and how the decisions we are making are affecting the kind of person we want to become. Heck! We don't even know the kind of person we want to become?! But how would we? When we don't have agenda and clarity meetings with ourselves.

How would you know the kind of person you want to become when you miss meetings with yourself?

I know it is normal to jump off the bed, maybe pray, then get on with the day, without deliberately fixing a short meeting with yourself to think about what the plan for the day is, what the goal is, what you have done to get closer to the goal, what has happened in the past or happened the previous day, how you showed up in life, what is happening at the moment, that is, what the current status quo is, what you want to happen, who you need to be and what you need to do to make what you want to happen in your life happen.

It is normal not to go through this process for ourselves, yet, we go through the same process every day with our friends, in our careers or businesses. Eh? We have strategies we have developed and we keep track of them to make sure we get better results and get the accolades we want in those areas of life, but we seem not to bother about the most important entity.

Ourselves.

We forget that our external relationships are just as healthy as our relationship with ourselves. We cannot show up impeccably in our businesses, careers, and relationships if we don't first show up impeccably for ourselves!

We all agree that results in life are from the inside out, but we have made it normal to completely ignore the inside we claim all things emanate from.

We always miss the most important meeting of all early in the morning, and this morning, we missed it again!!

You might want to counter this with, "I pray every day nau!" When you pray, are you meeting with yourself or with your God?

You might also want to say, "I read every morning," but get this, when you read, are you not meeting with yourself, or exposing yourself to external information, effectively meeting with the author?

Before you come up with any other thing, just ask, is there a separate thing or person involved that isn't you?

We can't deceive ourselves about these things, except we are truly not awake.

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It is sad but true, that many of us treat our jobs and businesses better than we treat ourselves. We set smart goals in our careers and for projects, we have journals for them, we track those goals, we evaluate results and find ways to better everything, and we spend time and energy on them, way more than we spend on ourselves.

This is not good enough!

The single most important thing is to meet with yourself consistently. Treat yourself the way you would treat your career, your business, and other things entrusted to you!

Schedule meetings with yourself when it would be just you and you alone. Set your goals. Develop strategies. Measure your previous performance on the goals you have previously set. Reevaluate those goals and strategies. Determine what it is you want, what you have been doing so far to get what you want, what you are doing right now or who you are right now and how it might aid or deter you in your goals, who you need to become and what you need to do today, and going forward to help you bring your smart goals to life, then adjourn your meeting. Always make time.

The few people who do this do it in different ways. They either have journals dedicated to this purpose, or they use their quiet times to record the meeting agenda and results.

However you decide to do this, make sure you can track and measure your performance on what you have resolved to do going forward, and make sure that you're able to pick it back up at the next meeting.

Take your life seriously! Whatever you do, start treating yourself better than you treat anything else in your life. Start with the most important meeting. Start immediately.

To your growth,

Your Coach,

Abiola Okunsanya,

Handzinspired. ✨