You cannot be a bully and grow. Light and darkness cannot function at the same frequency.
What does it say about you, if the only time you're funny, there's someone else hurting from being the butt of the joke? Does it put you in a better light? Does it make you feel like you have a 'healthy' sense of humor and the other person just can't take a joke?
What is wrong with you?
This is about growth, so let's talk. How many times have you cracked a joke at the expense of someone else publicly in the name of 'humor' or 'cruise'? How many times have you actually felt good because you 'cracked a joke' that 'pained' someone else?
Oh! Life is not that serious? It's just cruise? What? You think anybody likes to be the butt of a joke? The object of laughter?
How did you feel the last time you were right in the middle of it? What? You have never been the butt of a joke because you're the one who's always cracking jokes?
Today, I will stand between the heavens and the earth, and I will tell you what you are!
You are a bully!
If you derive instant pleasure and happiness from cracking silly jokes that make other people feel bad, you are a bully. Hiding it behind cruise and humor doesn't make it better. You are a bully.
And you know the common traits of bullies? Low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, and zero self-awareness.
The only reason why you would bully anybody is if you are insecure and believe the person is better than you, and so you try subtle ways to pull the person down so you can feel good about yourself.
Tracing it further down, it often is a result of two major things; a dysfunctional background or ignorance.
Dysfunctional Background
Perhaps one of your parents, or even your siblings made you feel like you could not do anything successfully without help, or they put you down with words every chance they got as you grew up, so you never grew the mental prowess to believe in yourself, and instead of you to keep that to yourself, you chase highs by doing the same thing to others.
You joke around that someone is stupid because you believe you are stupid as well and you don't want to be stupid alone.
You joke about someone's ideas being the next best thing to defecate because you don't think your ideas are any better, because that's what you heard growing up. Perhaps your mom told you that you're useless, and you can't be useless alone as misery loves company, so you label other people the same.
Ignorance
Ignorance because you have spent your life in wanton pleasure and haven't explored the qualities of your life, or deliberately chased knowledge that exists rather very freely, so when you're in a room filled with intellectuals, or friends who know better than you do because they've given themselves to be taught, you feel like you're nothing compared to them (and very rightly so), so you look for malicious ways to bring them to your level.
The solution in both cases is to enter the light. Deliberately teach yourself things you will never learn in school. Pursue knowledge.
Knowledge will make you heal from a dysfunctional background, because the more you open yourself up to learning, the more you discover that the people who brought you up didn't know better and hadn't learned how to raise a child.
You would know that if they knew better, they would have done better. This thought process will help you heal and be a better person, a better friend, and a better parent.
If they knew better, they would have done better.
Knowledge will move you from ignorance. Or rather, it will do two things to you. Help you learn more and become more than you were without it, and also help you learn that you know nothing and are nothing, and so when you walk into a room filled with people who are talking about stuff you don't know, instead of letting your ego go ahead of you and make an attempt to bully them down to your level, you will calm down and learn, because you know nothing.
Knowledge is knowing that you know nothing, and opening yourself up to the entrance of light. Then rinse and repeat the following morning.
Back to the crux of the letter. If the only reason people think you are funny is because you make fun of other people, then now you know there's something fundamentally wrong with your growth, and you need to walk yourself back from being a bully to being a person who seeks knowledge.
If you cannot make people laugh without someone else crying for it, you simply aren't funny. Stop your unsuccessful attempt at being a clown and instead, start your journey towards growth.
Knowledge is knowing that you know nothing, and then open yourself up to the entrance of light.
To your growth,
Your Coach,
Abiola Okunsanya,
Handzinspired. ✨
Funny how some people's dysfunctional background has turn them to neggist without them knowing.
The antidote to a dysfunctional background or ignorance and what not is to be deliberate about growth and knowledge
Thank you for sharing sir❤️
Thank you, sir. 👏🏾