Treasures on the Inside

Like peak, it's in you.

You are the treasure that I seek 🎶

You were close to me yet I did not know 🎶

The love that I seek for many years 🎶

Was right beside me, yet I couldn't feel it 🎶

The song almost hit the lion head, except that, the treasure that you have been seeking isn't beside you, but inside of you, and many people in their 20s still don't know this. Lucky you! You're reading this newsletter.

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Everything we seek from people, from external sources, from things, from relationships, from ideas, from situations, from countries, they are all inside of us, and it takes many people a lifetime to figure this out. Sad, but true.

The love that you seek from external entities is inside of you. Until you find it, you will continue to chase and never be contented with the love that other people give. The best they can give is a temporary dose, and many times, you won't even recognize it, because you haven't felt it in yourself.

Until you find love in yourself, you won't know what it looks like when someone else gives it to you, and hence, you will never feel it truly.

The happiness and the high that you seek in material things, in the shoes, in the cars, in the phones, in the cruises, in chocolates, in the bags, and in the trips are fleeting. I mean, they are good, even I crave these things. I'd be a hypocrite if I say I don't. However, I still stand by the fact that they are fleeting. This is why after the cruise, you get sad and depressed again, and you're looking for the next thing to make you happy, but only for a while.

The true happiness you seek, the lasting happiness you seek is a product of joy and contentment on the inside of you. Joy is a state of heart, not an external state that a material thing can give or another person can give. It is only something that stems from the inside. A treasure that the heart gives.

The only reason a lot of people are in friendships and romantic relationships today is because they are seeking for completeness and validation that can be withheld, that can disappear with the person. Many people believe they are not complete already in themselves, and they admit friends and lovers who they believe will complete them.

Relationships built on this kind of foundation will crash and burn, because the powerhouse of your sense of self and sense of totality that should be inside of you is in somebody else that is not you, and so, you are constantly seeking, constantly longing, constantly trying to secure, constantly incomplete when you can't speak to the person or you're in a fight, or the person suddenly disappears.

You don't have to be in a violent relationship to call it a toxic one. A toxic relationship is already one where each partner don't feel complete without the other person. It is one where they seek in the other person, what they should already have inside of them. A toxic, disabled relationship.

Have you heard the saying, that you can have peace even in chaos? It's true. Peace is not the absence of chaos. It is the presence of stillness on the inside! Aha! Another treasure found on the inside huh?!

If you're seeking peace in the situation of things, or in the economy, or community, you are already in error, because the only peace that truly matters, the only peace that can actually bring you the lasting feeling of security and confidence is found on the inside of you, on where your mind and soul is rested on.

Such that it doesn't matter what is happening around you, there will still be a sense of calm, a sense of knowing, a sense of tranquility inside of you, because you know that your peace doesn't come from the prevalent situation, but your permanent heartset.

Effectively all things and feelings that we seek from things and from people are just as temporary as those things and people.

The shoes will fade, the cars could crash, the trips will end, the people will move countries, stop being friends with you, or even pass away. War could break out in the country and you will realize that the stability you thought you had was merely a mirage.

This is why I tell you to take care of yourself. Take care of your body, your mind, your heart, and your soul. There are treasures inside of you, and they are the only treasures you need. Prune your garden and find the treasure hidden in the unlikely places. These permanent treasures will invariably attract and soak in the external ones.

Treasures come from the inside out. Stop seeking externally for what you should be looking inwards for. You have all the treasures you need. You only have to start looking in the right places.

To your growth,

Abiola Okunsanya,

Handzinspired. ✨