Short Circuits

Hurt people shouldn't hurt people

Some touches are meant to heal you.

This newsletter is for two categories of people, and chances are you are one of the two people. Please pay attention.

Hardly is anyone of us our true, pure, unblemished self any longer. As sad as this sounds, it's the truth. We have been shaped by experiences, knowledge, unique events that's happened in the past and the ones that are still happening in the present. 

We don't smile like we used to anymore because there's now one less reason to do so. We don't trust people or believe the good in people anymore as much as we used to as kids because we have learned the hard way.

We are not as loyal as we used to be any longer because people taught us that our commitment and loyalty should not be bought or given away so cheaply.

In short, a lot of us have been exposed. We have been taught away from the purest form of ourselves as little children; some more than others.

And with that foundation, the newsletter starts.

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I'm sure a lot of people who'd read this might not be familiar with electrical terms, and I might even do some wrong because the little I write in that regard comes, not from vast experience, but from a lot of research and almost no experience. So if you're a technical person, pardon me in advance.

Not to belabor you with technical terms, when electric wires are chewed by rats or cockroaches or wall geckos or children (💀) or whatever else chew them, excessive current flow through that wire as a result of the exposure such that, if you mistakenly touch the wire, you will need milk once you recover (ask anyone who has almost died of shock, like Layi Wasabi).

The wire is short circuited because it has been eaten through and exposed. The wire has been hurt by something else, and as such, when you touch it, it hurts you too. 

It's the same for us as humans. I mentioned earlier that some people have been more 'exposed' to the harsh realities of life, and as a result, they become Short Circuits and when other people go messing around with them, deliberately or not, they find out the hard way.

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The first category of people are the ones who deliberately go around touching the exposed wires. They are the ones who go around looking for trouble, expanding the rubber just to see how far it can stretch, unsettling the waters to see if it will explode, pushing people to their limits just to see what their limit is.

My question for you is, what is wrong with you?

When you touch short circuits and they shock you, you suddenly become the victim, when you could have just maintained peace and get on with your life.

I recognize that there are people who just like to chase the highs, they like to mask their imperfection and pain by inflicting pain on others, testing the imperfection in others, looking for trouble, touching short circuits, pushing people to the edge just to see how far they can go.

It doesn't end well for any of the parties involved. It doesn't contribute to your growth, and it stunts your relationship with other people, as well as with yourself, because if you derive your confidence and pleasure from pushing other people so much they turn around and hurt you, what does that day about you?

That you're hurting doesn't mean you should try to hurt someone else. Hurting people shouldn't hurt people. They should heal.

The second category are the wires, and it's just one advise!

Cover Yourself Up!

Unlike the metaphorical Short Circuits or Life Wires, you can deliberately begin to reshape yourself and reanalyze your past experiences to cover yourself up and not shock others upon every small touch.

Not everyone in your life who's touching you today is trying to hurt you. Some are trying to heal you, but if you remain exposed, you will hurt everyone who tries to touch you inadvertently, and you will in the end, chase the ones who were meant to be in your life forever. 

There's a reason why people are the way they are today. While we all make the journey back to our purest form of self, we need to understand that everyone (including you) has got a trigger. We should be sensitive enough to not push people to the point where they cork and shoot you dead. 

Also, don't cork your gun at every point of touch. Some touches are trying to heal you. They will first feel like a nasty pain, but they will do you good. 

We have all been short circuited, some more than others, and so in order to build excellent, healthy, and lasting friendships, we must deliberately learn to be sensitive and discerning at all times. 

This is truly important to our growth as individuals. Think about it.

To your growth, 

Your Coach,

Abiola Okunsanya, 

Handzinspired. ✨