(Don't!) Stay Safe!

The safe life is the regular life.

Your life should be about finding out!

Warning ⚠️: A few cuss words here and there. (I decided not to play it safe with this newsletter. 😉)

Real quick! Run away from people who wish you safety! Don't take the advice! Don't say amen to the prayer! That's not a way to live! If all you do is stay safe in your career, in your investments, in your relationships, in your purpose and fulfilment, you just might never lead a groundbreaking, awe-inspiring life!

Now, this newsletter isn't for people who simply want to live a quiet, peaceful, average, regular life where all you want is simply your three-square meals, every day, and you want to hold a regular job, marry a regular wife, have regular kids that go to regular schools, make regular friends, and live regular lives. If that's you, please close this newsletter and go about your regular, safe life. I mean, there are people who need to live regular lives. If everyone is living extraordinary lives, nobody will be ruled by people who will not accept the ordinary. I mean, didn’t Jesus already say that the poor (regular) you will always have with you? Your choice! And if you are choosing the regular, this newsletter is not for you.

If on the other hand, you have a purpose that will not be stopped, if you have something that needs to be fulfilled by all means, no matter the season or weather, then I tell you, you have to be anything but safe! Stop playing it safe, stop living far away from the edge. If you live far away from the edge, how will there be a chance for you to slip and fall and discover that you can fly? Would you be satisfied with a life where you never fly with your purpose and dreams and goals and visions and the reason for living?

You cannot be among the crowd that is scared to find out, so they decide not to fuck around. Your life should be about finding out! As a creator, as a disruptor, as a person who has made up your mind to create something, to achieve something with your life, you should never be scared to fuck around, because the idea is to find out! To find out your capacity, to find out how far you can stretch, to find out what you can achieve, and how far you need to grow to become the person who can get that click on their purpose. You cannot find out if you play safe. You cannot find out if you stay safe.

This is why I say, DON'T STAY SAFE!

Do you know the opposite of Safe? You say Danger? I say Stretch, Growth, Adventure, Exhilaration, Finding out, and Death. Oh yes! Death, whether you jump off the cliff and plummet to the ground, or you jump off the cliff and discover you can fly, it'd be death either way; death to a life so mundane that there wasn't really life in it.

Don't stay safe at the expense of fulfilling your purpose. Don't opt for a peaceful, safe life at the expense of finding out that you can be the person in your dreams. Not for your sake, but for the sake of the life you'd birth. If you stay safe, if you live far away from the cliff because you're scared of finding out, what will you be teaching those you're responsible for? What will you be teaching the dreams inside of them?

We spend our childhood trying to stretch and do dangerous things, and then adults around us, with the good intention of 'protecting us', clip the wings on our shoulders so much that we are relegated to a safe life, and so we never find out what we can achieve, and then we spend our adulthood living that safe life and teaching the same to the lives entrusted to us.

Tueh! (spits)

If staying safe is the opposite of innovation, if staying safe is the opposite of finding out how far I can grow, if staying safe is the opposite of living a regular life, if staying safe is the opposite of fulfilling the dreams and goals I have, if staying safe is the opposite of building a tangible legacy, then who wants to stay safe? Certainly not me!

The people who shape our world, the people who make the rules, the people who innovate our lives, whose products change our habits, those people didn't play it safe. Those people didn't choose to stay safe, those people didn't choose a peaceful and safe life. They dared to fuck around, and they found out. They found out that the world was theirs to own. Either that, or they died finding out. The truth is, whether they dared to fuck around and then died finding out, or they played it so safe you never even knew they existed till they finally died, there is no difference. Zilch!

I don't want to live a life where I don't get to find out how much I could have grown. If that's the cost of staying safe, count me out.

I hope you'll make that decision too!

To your growth,

Your Coach,

Abiola Okunsanya,

Handzinspired. ✨