Choices

Life is nothing but a collection of choices.

“In the end that was the choice you made, and it doesn't matter how hard it was to make it. It matters that you did.”

— Cassandra Clare

You must have been in a fix at some point in your life, and you concluded, “I don’t have a choice.” Pause. Was it true, really? Or Did you just in that point, decide—choose—to let someone else make a choice for you? Think about it for a minute.

Have you heard the quote that says, "Invariably, you become your decisions"? Well, it is true.

We want to succeed, we all want to grow and excel. We all want to be role models, mentors even. We want to be experts in a certain venture, carve a niche for ourselves, build business, own amazing careers, and we want to have a measure of control over our lives, but there are certain mechanics to the life that we have now and the life we so crave, the life we so desire and the life we are gunning for. These mechanics determine what happens at the end of the day. Sadly, many are not aware of them.

Do you realize that the control you have over your life is your ability to choose paths, to make decisions and to pick options with which you want to work with? The choices you make today determines, invariably, how progressive your life will be towards your desired goal!

Let no one deceive you. Every choice you make in life, everything you decide to do in life will always add its own cent to your growth, in that, it either takes away from it, or add to it.

There are times we make decisions on a spur, and there are times we take days to make decisions. But listen, life is nothing but a collection of decisions made. It is a picture that holds the exact decisions you have made in the past. Where you are right now is as a result of the decisions you made for yourself — or allowed people to make for you — some days or months or years back! You are responsible.

This is why you cannot afford to simply make decisions to satisfy your present self. I read in Morgan Housel's book, Psychology of Money, that the decisions you constantly make for immediate gratification will more than likely have a negative impact in the future, and the ones you make that deprives satisfaction in view of a later time will always have a positive impact on your life. This is another point where you choose.

You also cannot continue to let other people choose, or make decisions for you, all the time. In the final analysis, you will drink the scotch of the decisions made on your behalf. It’s a different case where people more experienced than you are advising you on what to do. To let people choose for you because you think you have no choice, or it’s not up to you will tell on you, because that’s you choosing too!

For your individual growth, you need to make choices for yourself that casts votes for the person you want to become. Take a stock of the last ten minor choices you made in your life and ask if these choices agree or are in sync with the person you hope to become — your ideal self.

Your decisions should be spurred towards the person you want to become. It should align ultimately to the goals you want to achieve and the legacy you want to leave. And this is why the most successful people would always advise you to delay gratification for the later.

You will make a decision after reading this growth article, dear friend. Do it with the person you want to become in mind.

To your growth,

Your Coach,

Handzinspired. 😍